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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

A Remnant

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Many years ago I read a rather painful, truthbook book called: The Decline and Fall of the Catholic Church in America (2003), by David Carlin (1) a politician and sociologist.  It is definitely written from a sociology point of view; research and study, and interestingly, Mr. Carlin defends his pro-life position, while attempting to remain within his party, Democrat.  It is an intelligent book with much useful, (but let’s face it), rather depressing predictions for the Catholic church’s survival in America.  I do wonder what Mr. Carlin’s thoughts on his party would be at this current moment if interviewed on the subject.

Although I don’t think Mr. Carlin uses the phrase “remnant” in his book, I have read other Catholic writers in the last decade use this term in regard to what might be left of the authentic Catholic faith and practices in this country in years to come….just a remnant church.

That eventually, with social policy and secularism punching away at authentic Judeo Christian values and traditions, the Catholic church will not only decline under the pressure and additionally decline but perhaps fall or fail altogether in this country.  And in the end what we will see is a very small minority of Catholics upholding and holding onto their faith and faith practices and where there was once an abundance of Catholics and Catholic institutions representing the Catholic factions there will be only memories …memories of a booming Catholic presence. 

While I’m not trying to be the herald of bad news this morning, I do think we have long seen the signs for many years….as Mr. Carlin explains in his book.  One thing that stands out in my mind is that if the church insists on not remaining uniquely its’ own, ancient and never changing and standing fast….and if we don’t recognize it as different and powerful because it isn’t just “ordinary”, then it will indeed become a remnant.  If it is not different than the secular world when we walk through its doors ….then we won’t bother to walk through its doors.  But, Mr. Carlin’s argument is much more articulate and eloquent than my retelling here.  I urge you to read it yourself.

In these days of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services announcing last week that almost all employers, including Catholic employers, will be forced to offer their employees health coverage that includes contraception, abortion-inducing drugs and sterilization “services” as mainstream, my mind travels back to Mr. Carlin’s book. 

It is my prayer that enough Catholics and other Christians care enough to petition against what seems to be a blatant attack on religious liberty by this current administration.  Maybe this administration is counting on the Catholics who are “in name only”, and think the church is very old fashioned and needs to get up to speed in this day and age; maybe they think all the Atheists override most of the Christianity in this country anymore…..

I think this country overall needs a return to respect for religious liberty, especially that of the traditional mode that this country was born and raised on.  How easy and quickly we forget the Christian belief system that was foundational in the rearing of this country. 

All I know is we’ve really got one heck of a battle going on this time around.

Let’s not throw God out in the wash water…..


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(1)  David R. Carlin, Jr. (born 1938) is a politician and sociologist. He was a Democratic majority leader of the Rhode Island Senate. His total period of service in the state Senate ran from 1981 to 1992. He made an unsuccessful bid for the Rhode Island's 1st congressional district in 1992. He considers himself to be a "Pro-life Democrat" and supported James Langevin's campaign. As a writer his books include Can a Catholic Be a Democrat?: How the Party I Loved Became the Enemy of My Religion and The Decline and Fall of the Catholic Church in America. Carlin is a current professor of sociology and philosophy at the Community College of Rhode Island at Newport.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Good advice...we're in for a ride this election!

National Committee for Human Life Amendment Alert

Support Respect for Rights of Conscience Act


On January 20, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) reaffirmed a rule that virtually all private health care plans must cover sterilization, abortifacients, and contraception. The rule is set to take effect August 1, 2012. Non-profit religious employers that do not now provide such coverage, and are not exempt under the rule’s extremely narrow definition of religious employer, will be given one year—until August 1, 2013—to comply.  

Please click link above (Support Respect...) to read more...

Saturday, January 28, 2012

Asperger's Syndrome diagnosis to be eliminated??

As the mother of a high functioning autistic son, I am concerned about this new "redefining" of autism, and the possible elimination of the diagnosis of Aspergers.  Although my child was diagnosed: Autism, he still is very much like an Aspergers child and could have easily been diagnosed as such. As if all this isn't hard enough on families with special children that fall on the spectrum, and need treatments.  Our neurologist said that 20 yrs ago, our son would have not made it on the spectrum, but would have definitely needed helps, but would likely not have a diagnosis that insurance would pay for.  


I pray that these things weighing heavily on my heart both during this current political administration and with the medical field, would be resolved with God's grace and suitable for all who need help.

Redefining Autism - ABC News

Friday, January 27, 2012

U.S. bishop asks Catholics: Are you a bigot? | LifeSiteNews.com

U.S. bishop asks Catholics: Are you a bigot? | LifeSiteNews.com

Bishop Conlon, our former bishop of Steubenville, now bishop for Joliet, Illinois.
I pray for him and all the Bishops that must fight what seems to be such a terrible persecution against the Catholic (Judeo-Christian) value system in the states under the current administration.


Friday things…Mom Satisfaction

One of my favorite life comforts, that I have found in my married life with children, is to plan out school. While I will not say I have enjoyed every moment of home schooling…..I can honestly say I have thoroughly enjoyed sitting and pouring over what the next grade of courses will be for each individual child as they move up the ranks.  Being able to tailor it to their needs and have control over the content and focus, while meeting state requirements and in our case, the Christian value system heavily integrated within the sciences and history and literature choices,….has given me a lot of mom satisfaction.  Probably just as much if not more so, than bearing them physically and nursing them. 
I have heavily relied on Designing Your Own Classical Curriculum and Mother of Divine Grace syllabi (lesson plans), for the most part, whether being enrolled or not, these resources have been my guiding light for the last 15 years.
Usually by the second semester of a grade level, I can tell pretty much where the child is going with their studies, successfully or not so successfully and I begin to project what we need to cover for this child into the next year.  I’m pretty excited for my seventh grader as he began algebra recently (Abeka 7th grade Mathematics), and will cover plane and solid geometry to end his math year.  He will pick up in 8th grade doing Pre-Algebra, and I’ll see if he needs the whole book or not.  I could bump him by his second semester into the Algebra I if he’s progressing nicely and too much of it is review. 
But, again, the flexibility of home schooling is the ability to be able to meet their abilities and grow them from there…all tailored for that child. Kind of like breast milk…it is made just for that particular baby and their needs…..what an analogy, right?!  Smile with me..please….!  Again, a lot of mom satisfaction!
So, as February approaches, and thoughts of Spring are ever in the back of my mind, which bring forth thoughts of summer around the corner…and a break…I am already content in my world of mothering, teaching and planning for the future of my children’s education.  I do hope Obama doesn’t mess up our educational freedoms and choices too much……I do pray that our leaders will always recognize and support a freedom of choice in education and religious liberty. 

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Thursday, January 26, 2012

Homeschooling special needs and difficult children

Home schooling helps for the special needs or difficult child:

I do not claim to be any expert when it comes to special needs or difficulties in a child’s disposition when you are attempting to home school them. But I do know we all go through times where we feel like throwing in the towel and sending them off to a school.  Many times it is because we just don’t know what to do for and with them any longer. 

There are so many ways to work with both special needs challenges, and a difficult child, who may not be responding to the typical disciplines or growing out of the bad behaviors.  I will list just a few things that I have found along the way as I am currently home schooling my youngest two who have particular challenges.

First, evaluate their diet.  Are they getting too much sugar?...too many artificial colors?  In children who may be more sensitive to additives, artificial colors can cause them to be unable to focus, or control themselves better.  I find the “blue” colorings to be the worst.  Just some thoughts……And are they getting a balance of good nutritional choices at meal and snack times so their blood glucose levels stay more even and not bottoming out or spiking up?

Routines are important, but not to the point of being super rigid.  Do allow some flexibility ….in other words, “chill”!  But…do keep them on a schedule or sorts, some structure that is dependable and a decent bed time.  I find my boys need to unwind their minds from the activity of video or computer games at least 2 hours before sleep, else they seem to ruminate those action games over and over in their minds with the images – granted they don’t play anything violent or horrifying…just fun stuff.  Still, the high tech graphics and new technologies seem to penetrate their minds deeply with images ….Before bed is the time to wind down with some good readers…and prayers.

Re-think physical punishments such as spanking and washing out mouths with soap…sometimes these have more of a negative effect that causes more anxiety that then results in worse behaviors…Find less coercing ways of discipline, and more rewarding ways….More on that below.

Revoking privileges and grounding may help encourage better behavior; rewarding with a favorite snack or candy that they normally do not get regularly, at the end of 2 weeks of “done well” school  -- or a special item, small toy, or taking them out to a favorite place to eat (or a movie, you name it) at the end of a month of well done school…might be more useful a tool than constantly having to punish.  Positive Motivators are what need to be looked for that will work.

Ignoring some behaviors that maybe just don’t rank up there…sometimes you have to pick your battles.  One of our son’s therapists said just give a look of disappointment and stay un-reactive about it.  When the behavior begins to not draw attention, even negative attention, oftentimes it will stop.  Parents have to be patient with this one.

When you have a “very active” child that can’t sit still long….don’t make them.  Help them stay on task for 15-20 mins, (sometimes that is even too long), but attempt to make that a goal;  have them do two pages of their math, then take a 10 min break to bounce on a sensory ball, or run around outside….seriously, it stimulates their processing abilities and helps them settle down at the same time.  Sometimes letting them do what comes naturally and fitting the schooling into it, helps immensely.  Otherwise you are working so against nature if causes conflict and turmoil daily.

Make it light and bright….you might need to use a sun lamp or something to help get through some of the more dreary months that have an ill effect on both you and your students.  And get them outdoors as much as possible.

Also, make a determination if your child needs to be evaluated for a disorder if they haven’t already been diagnosed and you suspect something is up.  Sometimes just shedding light on what could be going on with them will make an enormous difference in help that is available and how you can personally tailor helps and school for them.

Re-think how you school these particular children.  I had to do so two years ago.  I re-modeled our school structure and got it down to what was most important that they really learn that year (or just that semester), and how I could improve the environment in our schooling area or home. I spent nearly $150 on used literature, art items, a few more wicker baskets to hold things in, several big comfy floor pillows to place in a special reading area…We would begin the day there, with morning devotions and reading edifying literature together that taught a moral lesson and discussing it.  I did not forget myself in this… was it ME that needed an adjustment as well???  Well, it was a little of everything for sure.  Once I broke out of that “model of schooling” I thought I HAD to be doing like I had been doing for the last 13 years, then I was better able to address my boys’ needs overall, incorporate their therapies and academics and be much more content.  Watching them progress and better behaviors develop has taken work and patience, but it can be done.   It will NOT happen overnight…but with patience and God’s help, it will happen. 

Respect the differences in your child(ren), and know that there are ways to address those differences with the flexibility of home education.

God bless you!

Denise 

Monday, January 23, 2012

Turn the Tide 2012

The teacher of Life...

Wow, the caption really does make you think.....it makes me think on several different levels...how it's likely birth, so natural an event, resembles death more than we know...as we die to this life and are born into eternal life, one that we must accept on faith as being there.   I think whoever thought through and wrote this caption is to be commended for their wisdom on this one.  Such an analogy........such a parallel of our life in this state of being, and the one to come.    I don't know about you, but I'm going to be thinking about this one for a long time....and how much we are taught through the womb of woman, the life bearer in this world.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

God is Pro-Life!! Deut 30:19

Although the Christmas season is now past, I'd like to re-visit just one special day that we commemorate during Christmastide...that of Dec. 28th, the Feast of the Holy Innocents.  As in Herod's time, the innocent precious lives of the baby boys whose lives were cut short by Herod's selfish and wicked ways, repeats itself today in the shedding of innocent life...reaching all the way into the wombs of women.  As many gather in Washington D.C. this weekend to march up Capitol Hill in a bonded walk of solidarity representing Life, let us pray and pray again, and fight and fight again, and vote and vote again...for leaders and voices in favor of life and life giving choices, so the murdering of innocent life will cease.  Choose Life!



The Holy Innocents were the children mentioned in Matthew 2:16-18. "When Herod realized that he had been outwitted by the Magi, he was furious, and he gave orders to kill all the boys in Bethlehem and its vicinity who were two years old and under, in accordance with the time he had learned from the Magi. Then what was said through the prophet Jeremiah was fulfilled: A voice is heard in Ramah, weeping and great mourning, Rachel weeping for her children and refusing to be comforted, because they are no more."